Alright, I have many "old lady" rants and many soap boxes places here and there. Many people may call me old fashion, and you know what that is alright. Because at least an old fashion doesn't have to pay much to keep up with how fast the world is changing. I was on facebook today and one of my most precious friends posted this on his wall.
"During
my time in the social world, I have tried to be as helpful as I can
with my friends and family and I always listen to what they have to say.
One thing that many of my friends, especially girls, come to talk to me
about are their relationships. Many, many of those times, those
relationships are romantic and they want my opinion on a date or
situation that happened (just saying though, I’m NOT Hitch). But, there
is a troubling trend that I have seen and heard. It is the prevalence of
“One Night Stands” and/or “NCMOs” (non-committal make outs). Basically,
where two people simply decide to make out or commit an act to “satisfy
an appetite.” Some would even say that such an act constitutes a
“conquest.”
Many of you are probably thinking right now, “Well,
what’s wrong with that? I don’t see anything wrong with it.” I have to
voice my opinion though that there is something wrong with it. People
get hurt by stuff like this. Not just one, but a whole slew. Word
spreads around to others and you get a reputation. Most of the time that
reputation is less than flattering. Also, think of your self-esteem.
How do you feel afterwards? Do you feel proud? Do you feel worthy? Do
you feel like a “man?” Basically, I feel, if you think that it is okay
to commit such acts like this, than you are saying it is okay for a
spouse to cheat on their significant other. It is okay for someone to be
taken advantage of. It is okay to take someone’s feelings, play with
them, toy with them, and then when you are done, you simply leave it by
the road side, ready to be collected into the garbage heap.
Something that everyone needs to remember is that we are children of our
Heavenly Father. There IS a God, He is the father of our spirits and he
wants the best for us. He has given us all a body. We can do what we
wish with this body. But, if we treat it right, we can receive great
blessings in this life and the life beyond. A scripture from the Bible
reads, “According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that
pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath
called us to glory and virtue.” (2 Peter 1:3) We have been given life.
We are called to be 1.) Glorious and 2.) Virtuous. We glory in things
that are right, things that are good. The dictionary defines Glorious as
having, worthy of, or bringing fame or admiration. Think on “worthy
of.” If we have violated something; a rule, a law, a commandment, than
we are not worthy. If we have violated someone’s virtue, than we are
definitely not worthy of Glory. Virtue is such a precious gift. It is
something that makes us pure, good and capable of being loving towards
others. Taking away someone’s virtue or allowing us to surrender our
virtue causes such pain, to us personally, to our friends, and to our
Father in Heaven.
There is the saying “Nice guys finish last.” Many
say this because they are of the opinion that you have to “take charge
of your woman,” or “she wants that ‘bad boy.’” I have had that “Nice
Guy” moniker on my chest for a long time now. I used to resent that
title, and I still kind of do. However, I am a better man for it. I
treat everyone I meet with respect and dignity. I respect a woman’s
virtue and am always mindful of her honor and dignity. This is called,
“chivalry.” They say it is dead. It isn’t. I am glad that I and many of
my friends still practice this so-called, “lost art.” I am proud that
there are still men who respect a woman’s virtue and self-esteem and
vice versa. I will not surrender my honor as a man so that I can have a
short time of pleasure. Because that can result in long term pain. I may
be single, I may not have that girl that loves me for who I am, but I
will not stop being a worthy priesthood holder and a good honest man
just so I can have my kicks! Those girls that do see it in me and others
like me are out there and hopefully, one day, they will see that. I am
proud to be known as the “Nice Guy.”
People, I implore you. Be
honorable in your relationships. Hold back those animalistic desires for
NCMO’s and “one night stands.” They are only pleasurable for a moment
and they can cause long-term pain, regret, and sorrow. Do good always.
Let virtue garnish they thoughts. You are all children of God; act
accordingly. Do not disappoint Him. If you do good things now and stop
behavior such as this, than you will receive some of the greatest
rewards you will ever see in your life."
- John Hogan
I most have to agree with him. Many people in the world are unaware of what they are getting into. They act on sudden urges rather than just taking time to think. We have to bridle (restrain or control the action or movement of something.) our passions. So many of us in this world today want instant gratification. NOW is not enough for us...we want everything when we want it. I once heard a lady tell a group of women she waited 20 dates until she kissed her boyfriend (who turned out to be her husband later on) she knew what she was wearing, where they were, and the date and time. She became emotional upon telling us the story. It was powerful and beautiful, who else wants that? Some would say it is a fairytale, some would say it is old fashion. Well pass me some knitting needles and call me Grandma, but we need more hope that there are good men out there. Above proves their not all pigs! Thank you for listening to your elder!
