Last night my niece (who is 12 keep this in mind) came in the house screaming from a football game her school was playing "Tonight was the best night ever!" So my sister said, "Why what happened" (thinking that the school had won and we were going to hear all the details. "Brandon and I are going out" He had been her friend since they were 8 or younger. My sister, my friend who was there, and I just threw our head back and rolled our eyes with a "OH MY GOODNESS" tone in our voices.
Let me take you back a little my nephew who is 13 going on 14 in just a week. He had a girlfriend, notice I said HAD. They had just broken up because she was wanting to date others while still "with" my nephew...I know crazy! My sister and I had a big conversation with my nephew about his girlfriend. We talked about how he was too young to even be in a relationship. Plus he doesn't even know how a relationship works! We talked to him about just going a head a breaking up with her, because she was not a good girl for him. He finally did and has mopped around and said how he still loved her....LOVE at 14! I don't think so.
Going back to last night. My sister and I talked to both of them and told them how they were too young and how they needed to just enjoy being young. We told them to find out who they are first and that they do not need someone else to define who they are. Just make friends not be with anyone of the opposite sex to feel like they are loved! that was the underlining message I don't think sunk in. They still want someone else with them because everyone in their school is going out with someone. Oh brother! we talked about following the crowd and how it can't be good for them to just follow the crowd...they have to make good choices! it was just a mashed up mess! but we somehow got through to them, by telling them they are loved here at home and they do not need someone to tell them who they are.
You cannot be rich in something you have no idea how it works...with my niece and nephew they are so young and they think they are rich, but growing up so fast and wanting to be an adult is hard and a lot of work. I will be spending the next few days trying to tell them this and hoping and praying it goes through their heads! It's sad to say, but they are growing up in a world where they think being a child is a bad thing...it's not don't be a fool by giving into what the world thinks, believe different, be you, and shine like Gold!
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